When Reflectors Spend Time Together

Have you ever wondered what it's like when two or more Reflectors hang out together? Some of us have never met another Reflector live in person and you may be curious what that experience is like.

Do two Reflectors just reflect some floating emotion back and forth?
Does the dominant one's traits overpower the other and that's what gets transmitted?
Do their emotions just disappear into thin air?
Does a portal open up and pull them into a new dimension?

Honestly, sometimes it's all of those!

Having spent lots of time with other Reflectors in live proximity I thought it would be fun to break down some of the experiences that can be typical. And just to be clear, you don't have to be next to the Reflector to get the full Reflector experience. It's much the same online when you're on a Zoom call, like when I do my Human Design readings.

It's all about the alignment

What happens when you connect with another Reflectors depends a lot on how closely they're living their design, aka their truest self.

A Reflector in my life lives with a Manifesting Generator and unless I catch him at the right moment, his demeanor and energy are so much like the Mani-Gen's that I'd swear he was one as well. This is why it's important to know your design and make a conscious effort to understand how conditioning impacts the way you live.

The Reflectors I've sat down with who are on a journey towards living in alignment tend to give off a pretty chill vibe, and it's fun to soak it up. I also believe that anyone who's taking the time and space to live closer to alignment gives off a unique essence that feels good to those around them, so spend more time with people like that.

What's happening in your surroundings?

If it's a quiet room where you can have dedicated quality time with another Reflector the interaction is going to be much different than if you bump into them at a coffee shop.

I love having quiet conversations with Reflectors because it allows me to sense much more deeply into who they really are, and actually, the same is true for other types. It's kind of like having a lot of energetic white noise when you're in a big group or a really busy space. You can still pick up on things but there's so much going on it's hard to pinpoint where the energy is really coming from.

Recently I had dinner with a fellow Reflector in a busy restaurant. Despite the hustle and bustle nearby we were both hyper focused on our conversation and it felt like our combined auras formed a resistant bubble around us so we wouldn't get disturbed. It was amazing!

Who's who?

Even though your design gives you the superpower of reflecting those around you and your nine centres are wide open, it doesn't mean you don't get to have a sense of self. You are a person with values, beliefs, and feelings, and it hurts my soul when Reflectors feel as though they don't know who they are because of this openness. There will be variations in how you speak to your grandma versus how you speak to a small child or even your pet, regardless of what design you are. That's just us being social creatures and understanding that different situations need different language, tone, and mannerisms to get our message across.

Being a Reflector in a room with another Reflector means you might start saying the words the other person uses or getting more expressive with your hands when you speak. It happens to everyone, not just us!

Check your expectations at the door

Since we Reflectors are so rare there tends to be a lot of hype around how we should "be", and this can look a lot like conditioning if we're not careful. If someone expects me to be super perceptive and calm, guess what? That's how I'm going to show up, even if it's not how I'd normally be. The best Reflector conversations I've had were ones where there was no expectations about how we should be, what we should talk about, or what we'd get out of our time together.

Don't expect fireworks or a direct line to your soul to happen right away. I've had someone come up and chat with me for a few minutes and then ask if they're living in alignment, and I had to laugh. Yes, we reflect those around us but rarely does it happen within two minutes. I can easily pick up on the feelings and emotions behind someone's words or actions but that doesn't mean I know their whole life story (yet).

When you have an opportunity to spend time with another Reflector, it's fun to approach it with a sense of curiosity and desire to get to know the other person. Human Design is known as the science of differentiation, so even though you may share a design type (Reflector) it doesn't mean you'll be identical.

Think outside your type

When you consider the role of each Human Design type you get a picture of how we're each intended to operate as a whole. We're all gifted and have our own superpowers but we're not meant to sit alone outside of society, we're designed to interact with one another. Reflectors function as the tuning fork, giving off the energy of the group so it can be adjusted as necessary- that's our role. But without others to tap into, we're not really serving our highest purpose, are we?

Use your gifts as an experiment or learning experience to see the impact you can have when you're around any and all design types. At the most basic level, that's kinda what life is all about.

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